It’s their call, of course, but here again we believe it’s crucial that mom and dad know their child’s dating partner and his or her parents well.
They should also bear in mind that while eighteen-year-olds may be considered “adults,” the fact remains that many of them haven’t developed the maturity to monitor and control their own actions in a dating situation.
It may exist numerically, but it will not meet the needs of the people. If an elder has no interest in outreach, he is not God-like. If a man in the oversight is always striving for more of the things of this world, he is not really godly.
A person can be a good fisherman or a good banker but be a poor communicator. One danger is to use the influence a leader has as a way to apply pressure on another.
Authority can be misused to provide a leader with a sense of personal power. LEADERSHIP QUALITIESThere are also qualities in leadership. Among the elders of an assembly, some of the leaders should be able to visit. Personally, I feel that men are often brought into the work of overseer-ship in an unscriptural way.
I am convinced now more than ever before that if you don?
t have progressive leadership, you are not going to have much of an assembly.
In young churches just starting, sometimes with the Holy Spirit?
s guidance, some have to be weeded out who seem to be leaders but really are not. It is not easy, but we did it because we felt before the Lord that it had to be done for the good of the assembly.Sexual promiscuity is rampant, even among Christian teens, and many young people receive little or no moral guidance from their parents.Binge drinking, date violence, and even date rape are far too common.If an older teen displays maturity, common sense, and sound moral judgment, dating can play an important role in his or her growth and development.It can also teach them how to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy way and to recognize the character qualities that are truly important in a marriage relationship.Instead, they should be encouraged to participate in their parents.