So, without further ado: Beware the quiet, angry, brooding, smart guy: This used to be my type to the letter and not surprisingly, every encounter with one, was an epic disaster. They are extremely irresistible to nurturers, those individuals who like to take care of and fix other people.
There’s nothing here for you, so if you run into one of them – that’s a sneak out the bathroom window kinda date.
They talk about things they want to show you – like where they want to get married (happened to me) and crazy nonsense like that.
I’m not talking about teenagers, or those freshly out of college I’m talking about grown-ass adults that are still trying to find themselves.Right out of the gate, they are showing you that they have honed their manipulation skills.Throughout my various stages of emotional health, I have blundered my way through oodles of men, chalking up one epic dating failure after another, enough to supply Rom Com writers with copious amounts of material for decades.Through it all I have laughed, I have cried, but most importantly I learned.The post-date analysis was one of my favorite pastimes.
It was a special time, when my girlfriends and I would get together, usually over a meal, or coffee and we’d laugh about what colossal dating faux pas Savannah made this time.
Everything, all of the problems and the break up was entirely someone else’s fault. I remember a date I had with a guy whose face, actually twisted into this mean hideous mass, as he spoke about his ex-wife. I also dated a guy who had nothing nice to say about his sister.
‘I guess they don’t get along I thought,’ until I noticed that he had nothing nice to say about any female.
Beware the addict: Drugs, alcohol, porn, sex, gambling, if you discover your date has any type of compulsive behavior, that they can’t control – it’s time to hit the pavement in a big, big way, before you’ve made any emotional investment.
The red flags are smacking you in the face here – see them and skedaddle.
They’re telling you the truth, so believe them, they know something you don’t. Do: Know what you’re boundaries are before you go out on a date.