Even if you have no children together and limited friends in common, cutting somebody out of your life entirely who used to be so central to it is all but impossible.Learn to be okay with their existence and even civil if you run into them again.
Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling.No two ways about it: life after divorce can be tough, but it doesn’t have to be the worst.It won’t make your children love you more, or make your friends more sympathetic.It just reinforces the silly, incorrect idea that there is a “winner” and “loser” in any divorce.I notice that lots of people who were married for maybe 10 years or less seem to say…we got married early, found out it didn’t work, and then later remarried and have found long term, happiness with their next partner/spouse. ) increase the number of potential men for you, but I think you will see that age is only a number, unlike it was, say if you were 30, dating a 20 year old. Go on dates, but don’t force the serious relationship.
What I also notice is that I don’t seem to hear any/as many happy stories about people (like me) who were married 20-25 years, got divorced, and then found happiness/ marriage, etc again. I have always believed that 50’s is in fact, no-man’s land, whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed, the reason being that you aren’t really young anymore, but you aren’t old either. I am me and all I can do is live life to my potential. The thing that bothered me most about your email is this part: You write: “found happiness/marriage etc.
It might sound flippant to say that the choice is up to you, but that really is the case.
There are so few things in this world that you can control, but your behavior is one of them. There’s a chip on your shoulder that might not be going away anytime soon. Here are 40 things you absolutely shouldn’t do after a divorce, even though every atom in your body might be screaming out to do them anyway.
Give yourself some time to be okay with being single.
Another relationship, no matter how healthy, is not the quick fix that will make you feel whole again.
A lot depends on your perspective, and how you adapt to your new situation.