When you’re texting someone that you like and they are hard to get, it’s nauseating, exciting, and thrilling, waiting for someone to respond – the fact that it’s new and unknown is exciting.The anticipation and re-reading of texts can drive you mad but it’s that pain and agony that makes it so much better when they respond.” According to Braden, 20, “more than once a day is too often,” while Cameron, 23, says texting “just to say hey” is “always fine.” Nate, 30, agrees that the text conversation should be “open-ended to keep the conversation flowing.” Ben, 27, wants a more creative conversation starter.But being hard to get is definitely a game and I think it totally depends on the type of person you are.
Ben, 27, last ghosted a girl after a first [Tinder] date.
“She had a lot of baggage,” he explains, “and brought up that she recently broke up with a boyfriend she had been dating for several years…
M.” (unless you’re at Steak ’n Shake – and Nate will be there with chivalry and cheese fries). That is, at least, if you’re talking to Braden, 20: “I treat it like a game where I try to talk to as many people as possible at the same time.” Ben, 27, is our breath of fresh air.
“I’m not one for games,” he says, “and the older I get, the less and less I play them.
But I do think it is important to not come off as desperate or clingy when first meeting someone, because you don’t want to spook them.” When can you expect a non-strategized text from him? ” Ben: I think that depends on the girl; for example, I loved getting “hey there stranger” from my first serious girlfriend who I took to prom.
“After 2 – 3 dates, I usually stop worrying about the time or frequency of my texts as strategic, because I feel that I have a read on them and whether or not we like each other.” I’ll let the guys speak for themselves here. The words didn’t necessarily mean anything, but between us it was an inside joke or something we always said to each other.miss you/ something reminded them of me) and compliments.For questioning readers, I’ll save you the Google search: “Ghosting” is when someone you’re “dating” or “talking to” or “seeing” (#Dating in 2016 problems) ends the “relationship” by ending all communication without explanation or warning.This time, I went straight to the source for the answers to what, if anything, is appealing about “the chase” when it comes to texting, what the game is about, and how to play.Five guys, ages 20 – 30, opened up about what goes through their minds before they hit send.“If you are actively pursuing someone, you better come up with something better than ‘hey’ or you will lose their interest,” he cautions.