Be willing to work on yourself if he needs something from you.But be honest with him if you feel you cannot meet those expectations, especially if he expresses that he has no desire to ever marry again and that is a goal for you.Be patient with him throughout the process and lend him an ear.
I’m currently single again, a sober divorcée in the strange world of online dating. How do you allude to your past (and present) situations without lying or scaring off a potential match?The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?Or how many people I have slept with,” she says, half-jokingly.Sam continues, “Dating in the program is obviously nice, because you speak the same language and you don't have to hide your ugly past.However, sometimes the right man comes along and, even though he is still technically married, you wish to pursue a relationship with him.
While he is still legally married, though, it is important to be careful. It is likely that if anyone finds out you are dating, it will have a negative impact on his divorce proceedings, especially if there are children involved.
Natasha, an ex-pat who's been on the wagon for 10 years agrees.
“The pros of dating in the program are that, chances are, the guy won't leave me when he finds out some of the things I have done.
However, the chance of that person relapsing can also be very high.” And, she would know.
During her sobriety, Sam’s had two relationships with fellow sober addicts, but both ended because of their relapses. Dating a fellow addict can feel a bit like betting with the odds against you.
I’ve had many periods of sobriety, from a paltry four months to a lengthy seven years (and everything in between).