None of the old problems will exist in a new relationship, you think.All those interesting, attractive people who were single before you married are probably still waiting around, eager to go out with the newly-single you (not to mention all the eligible strangers online).Sometimes it takes a long time for a face-to-face encounter.
This is far less subtle than, say, acting cold on a date or not calling when you said you would.
The tabloids widely reported that pop star Britney Spears broke up with her now-ex-husband Kevin Federline via a text message.
"The nature of how to handle a breakup has to do with how you experience a relationship," says New York City-based psychoanalyst and psychotherapist Janice Lieberman, Ph D, who specializes in relationship issues.
For starters, she says, not every relationship deserves a dramatic breakup.
Nor should web sites like Breakup Butler, which delivers several types of prerecorded breakup messages ranging from let-them-down-easy to downright mean. But to my mind, it's better to call and speak or go out to dinner," Lieberman says.
"The news of a breakup should never be broken over text or email," says Alison Arnold, Ph D, a therapist in Phoenix who is also known as 'Doc Ali,' the life coach on the VH1 series Scott Baio Is 45 ... "Texting a breakup is the coward's way out," she says.
Web MD went to the experts to get the best breakup advice ever.
Read this before you even think of uttering another clichÃ©d breakup line or texting the bad news to your soon-to-be ex.
"Face-to-face or phone contact is a must," Arnold says.
"It's important to give the person with whom you are ending the relationship the chance to ask questions and feel the sentiment underneath the words." Be as direct and honest as you can, she advises. Stick to the facts: 'It's not working, it's no one's fault, we need to make a change.'" Whether or not two people can remain friends after a breakup depends on the two people and their feelings about the end of the relationship.
But text messages, emails, or other high-tech message delivery systems are not the best medium for ending a romantic relationship.