Never before in their lives have they been showered (inundated, pummeled) with such overt attention from the opposite sex—and most of them are ill-prepared to deal with it.
Even when they recognize the obvious ruse for what it is, there is something inside them that wants to ignore the fact that they’re being played and just enjoy the attention.
For the bride, she will make a small rip in her veil to welcome good luck.In many Italian regions, the bride is not allowed to see herself in the mirror before the wedding.The women are tired of the aforementioned routine where proper decorum implores them to resist, even if they’re genuinely interested in the boy in question.So now some of them are forsaking this centuries-old script in favor of a more a direct approach; only the Italian men are at a loss and don’t like it one bit.I asked him how his quest was going and the sound of his bubble bursting must have been audible from across the piazza.
But after talking to him for a few minutes I came to realize that his ideal “Italian” woman bore a striking similarity to Snookie from the Jersey Shore and looked nothing like the Italian women that I knew. He probably would’ve known how to handle Snookie—but I’m quite sure that he had underestimated the mortal danger he would have encountered if, by some random chance, a real Italian woman would have shown some interest.In many Italian weddings, both the bride and the groom will do all they can to bring as much good luck to the wedding as possible.For the groom, this means carrying a small piece of iron in his pocket to ward off evil spirits.For years they’ve assumed that “I don’t like you” is not to be taken seriously, whereas “I like you” is synonymous with “let’s go to bed.” This new honesty puts them off because it neutralizes their advantage in the hunt.Herein lies the conundrum and perhaps one of many reasons why the birth rate among Italians is among the lowest in the western world.I’ve watched the most intelligent, savvy women fall for the same blatant bullshit again and again, and then still end up dejected when they realize the plain truth. If these cultural mistranslations occur between Americans and Italians, the situation among two Italians is no less tricky these days.