Older men and gay dating sites

"Within the gay community, negative stereotypes reinforce the belief that gay relationships are based solely on physical attraction, and that once youth starts to fade, we are unlikely to have any real or lasting relationships," says Rik Isensee, author of Are You Ready? And remember that the most important characteristics — loyalty, humor, intelligence and compassion — are ageless.

If you think you're too old for love or you stopped believing that you can find someone to love who'll love you back, think again. Focus on what you've gained — rich experiences, accomplishments, survivor skills and wisdom.

With all the focus on marriage equality these days, it's easy for gay men to think that being single and happy is an oxymoron.

Then create a profile that reflects who are you, what you want and includes recent photos. Your date will wonder, "If he's not honest about his age, what other lies is he telling? Be self-aware, not rigid One advantage of age is self-awareness.

Don't post the online profile of Dorian Gray by showing off your shiny youth. When you know yourself better, you can quickly size up what you want in someone else.

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You recognize dysfunction and mismatches faster now than you did when you were younger.

But that doesn't mean you should be rigid and inflexible. Chat with a guy who isn't your "type" and stretch your boundaries.For example, if you like the outdoors, join a gay hiking or walking group, and meet men while you get fresh air and exercise.Focus on smaller parties, events centered on hobbies and interests, and volunteer opportunities.Think more about keeping a sparkle in your eyes and less on fighting the fine lines around them. Pick your meet 'n' greet venues wisely Does walking into a gay bar make you feel more out of place than Lady Gaga shopping for clothes at a mall?Yes, it's true that the Olympic-sized pool of dating prospects you swam in years ago seems like a lap lane when you reach your 50s. Get off of the sideline and get involved in your passions and interests.Especially at this stage of life, why would you want a relationship that doesn't bring you happiness?