I told her she should just, like, leave it, but she doesn’t want to, I guess.” Teens deploy social media and the web of connections they create to help them connect with and learn more about potential romantic prospects.They’re old, and I’m like, why did I post a photo of me?
When it comes to “entry-level” flirting, teens who have never been in a romantic relationship are most comfortable letting someone know that they are interested in them romantically using the following approaches: As noted earlier, older teens are more likely than younger teens to have experience with dating and relationships – and as such, older teens are substantially more likely than younger teens to say they have let someone know they were interested in them romantically in all of the ways measured on this survey.The correlation between flirting behaviors and age, however, is not as strong as the correlation between these behaviors and dating experience.A high school girl described meeting a boyfriend online: “For me personally, it was from Facebook and it was a friend of a friend. And then we started Skyping, and after that we just kind of started a relationship.”“I’ve met a person over Instagram, actually. But it didn’t last that long.”“I was dating this girl that I met through a social website that probably hardly anybody knows about. A high school girl explained: “It looks a little more creepy.And then like we just like really liked each other. And, I mean, you…it’s not like you just kind of comment on their picture like, hey, here’s my number. I’d be kind of creeped out if someone mentioned my photos from a long time ago, especially because those photos tend to be very embarrassing.Overall, 4% of all teens ages 13 to 14 have dated someone they met online, compared with 11% of all teens ages 15 to 17. A little more than one quarter (28%) of teens have searched for information online about someone they were currently dating or interested in.
The survey also found that among teen daters who have met a romantic partner online, Facebook is cited more often than other sites as the primary source for online romantic connections. And I met a girl on there and she lived up in [town]. She just had a lot of problems with him and she…they talk all the time, but it just … And the searching doesn’t end when the relationship is over; 13% of teens (or 38% of teens with dating experience) have ever searched for information online about someone they dated or hooked up with in the past.Other ways in which teens let someone know that they are attracted to them include sharing something funny or interesting with them online (46%), sending them flirtatious messages (31%), making them a music playlist (11%), sending flirty or sexy pictures or videos of themselves (10%) and making a video for them (7%).Certain types of flirting behavior are relatively common among teens who have never dated before; others are almost entirely the purview of those with past experience in romantic relationships.Overall, 3% of all teens have met a romantic partner online but never met them in person. And we talked for about a week, and then I decided he actually seems kind of chill. And then I took it slow, like, ‘cause meeting someone over the Internet isn’t always the best idea. Such a move, she noted, will reveal to the profile owner via a notification that you’ve been looking through their profile.Teens in our focus groups related their experiences meeting partners through online venues. So if you’re going to do it, like do it very carefully.”“Well, I said…we just said, like, do you want to hang out at the movies sometime? And we kind of met there and then we just kind of became romantically involved. And if the feelings aren’t reciprocated, such liking of old photos can border on disturbing.A majority of teens with dating experience (76%, or 26% of all teens) say they have only dated people they met via in-person methods. One-in-five (20%) of all teens have used their social networks to find new partners by following or friending someone because a friend suggested they might want to date them.