When they realized that I had something useful to say, they became that much more interested. I was also seriously considering sending them a meme instead of my picture, just to satisfy their curiosity. The answer was not surprising, but it was very concise: Men are attracted to the mystery. So, I guess the answer was not anything that most people wouldn’t already know.
One of the answers that really interested me was from one guy who didn’t flirt with me. The more they uncover, the better it is for their egos. It was right under my nose, but the hordes of love-struck men blinded me to the fact that the human psyche is predictable, at best, and annoyingly accurate, at its worst.
I don’t believe that for a second, but of course I am only human.
All of them were a variety of bland greetings and creative quips about my tag line. Some of the messages went like this: Note: The usernames of the people involved have been redacted to prevent any lawsuits and physical altercations in broad daylight. They admitted that they wanted to find out if what I was saying was true.
Some of them tested my sincerity by opening up about the topics that I expressed interest in like the economy and politics.
I didn’t want them to see me and assume that I was out of options in terms of organic dating.
I also didn’t want them to think that I was scouring the Interwebs for an easy lay – which is not something to be ashamed about… I am one of the few people in my social circle that really believes in the power of online dating, but hearing other people disregard it and put it down as something desperate, pathetic spinsters do really puts a downer on my online quest for love.
[Read: 12 things men like in women other than her looks] Should you stop posting photos on your online dating profile? If you’re serious about looking for a partner out there, you need to get with the program.
What happened to me was a fluke and not all of the guys I dated were keepers anyway.How it all started I wasn’t seriously looking to date at the time I opened a new account on the site.I wanted to test the waters before I decided to reveal my identity.Some forums can only be seen by registered members.After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. My red flags would start waving, though, if I had a few exchanges with the person, and they were unwilling to privately send me a photo, though, of course. I later learned that he doesn't have a lot of close-up photos of himself that aren't in his military uniform, and he wasn't necessarily looking to draw the typical "girl who goes for military guys," whatever that means.I wasn’t ashamed of going on a dating site per se, but I was a little reluctant, because of the reactions I was expecting to get in case they found me. [Read: 9 sites you can use to get yourself a date] Why I didn’t use a photo No matter which way you look at it, there is still a stigma on using dating apps and sites to find a relationship.